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Stop Asking for Your Needs to be Met

One bit of advice that’s emerged from the last 50 years of the personal development movement is to ask for our needs to be met. As a therapist, it drives me crazy. Of course, it’s not the asking that’s bad. It’s the how of it that mucks it all up. Because in the very moment […]

How I Saved My Marriage

I prayed as I walked in the door to a cold wife who barely even acknowledged me. That night, as we lay in our bed, inches from each other yet miles apart, the inspiration came. I knew what I had to do.

Words Unspoken

To the clients I see in my office everyday to try to bridge the gap between you. Everyday I reflect that if only so many words did not remain unspoken there would be so much less suffering. Here are the words that remain unspoken between couples and between parents and children every single minute of […]

Remembering Dr. Sue Johnson

This week my colleagues, couples therapists around the globe, are mourning the loss of an extremely special woman, Sue Johnson. For those who don’t know, Sue Johnson founded emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), an approach to therapy that transforms the dynamic of the couple. Her life’s work impacted me in so many ways: the way […]