How To Give A Good Apology
“I’m sorry, okay?!” does not work. Even though it can initially be annoying as hell, a good apology is one of the best gifts to give. When I do couples counselling, I get to see how people give and receive apologies. I get to see the kinds of apologies that don’t work and sadly, do […]
Stop Asking for Your Needs to be Met
One bit of advice that’s emerged from the last 50 years of the personal development movement is to ask for our needs to be met. As a therapist, it drives me crazy. Of course, it’s not the asking that’s bad. It’s the how of it that mucks it all up. Because in the very moment […]
How I Saved My Marriage
I prayed as I walked in the door to a cold wife who barely even acknowledged me. That night, as we lay in our bed, inches from each other yet miles apart, the inspiration came. I knew what I had to do.