“I’m sorry, okay?!” does not work.
Even though it can initially be annoying as hell, a good apology is one of the best gifts to give.
When I do couples counselling, I get to see how people give and receive apologies. I get to see the kinds of apologies that don’t work and sadly, do further damage. I also get to see apologies that work and therefore, create more closeness and bonding. It’s moments like these when I feel like I’m witnessing love really happen.
I help people to learn how to give and receive good apologies and to experience the healing benefits of them. When we receive a good apology, we know it. It’s like we have a built-in system in the brain, heart, and gut that recognizes a good apology. We can feel it repairing the wound inside. We feel acknowledged and relieved.
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